‘I am enough’ when was the last time you said these three words to yourself? Maybe you’ve never told yourself this?
All too often people get caught up in comparing their selves or their lives to others, all to often all they listen to the negative self-talk – choosing to believe the unhelpful whispers instead of focusing on the things that they are good at or what is going well in their life.
I think this rings true for so many of us. I know for sure that there was a ‘not good enough’ program running in the background of my life for many years and it has only been in the last 10 years that I have learnt to recognise where it has its roots and work on shutting it down. I haven’t been able to put it to bed completely, it still boots up from time to time but I’m much better at dealing with it and knowing when it’s holding me back from making progress.
I often wonder why some how it’s easier to accept the thought that you are lacking in something, to think that others are so much more than you are, than it is to accept that you are enough. That you have always been enough.
Forgetting you are enough.
When you forget that you are enough you can find yourself looking to the external to validate your worth, but if you keep on seeking praise from outside of yourself, from others, you will more than likely turn into a people pleaser and wind up getting all bent out of shape in the process. Forever trying to please others has a tendency to turn you chameleon-like – constantly changing to meet others needs and this usually means your own needs get neglected.
When you can’t accept yourself as enough you often need others more than is healthy for you, your relationships can become unbalanced and you don’t get the right kind of support needed to motivate you to do things for yourself.
You may find yourself looking to others to complete you; believe that having a partner is the only way to feel whole. Maybe you find yourself always pushing for other people’s approval- seeking their constant reassurances and validation, seeing in them what you are blind to recognising within yourself.
Perhaps you constantly question if you’re making the right decision and can’t move forward with anything without checking out what others think. You might find yourself justifying other people’s bad behaviour towards you because you deep down you believe you aren’t smart enough or good looking enough or, or, or…
Living in the external world, drawing comparisons and looking for approval and validation from other people is a one way street to becoming stuck in a perpetual cycle of feeling like something is missing from your life. Life becomes an endless search for the next best thing to make your feel good instead of discovering that the best thing for you IS you.
Not believing you are enough can have a huge impact on your daily life, actions and behavior, you may find yourself short tempered and frustrated at what you see as your shortcomings, you might be green with envy or resentful of people who seem to have it all. Maybe you feel restless, unfocused or empty, I know that when I’m feeling inadequate I have a tendency to be more critical of others- I’m like the wicked Witch of The West!
But what if…
You can get to grips with the notion that you already have everything inside of you? That if you were to accept what you are or what you have as enough, then what? Well, for starters you’d know that you always have what you need to become more. You’d know that you have the power to change the things you don’t like and go for the things you want. If you had faith in who you are, you would discover you have an internal compass good enough to guide you through life much more smoothly.
When you say enough is enough.
The moment that you realise you are enough you open a door to inner strength, inner peace and the realisation that it’s ok to be unique and individual; it’s more than enough to just be you. It gives you the freedom to be whoever you want to be and that in itself is refreshing and liberating.
So much can happen when you make this shift:
- You no longer feel the need to place the responsibility for your happiness on someone else’s shoulders or on external things.
- You can let your relationships blossom without the added pressure of it needing to be a fix for something.
- You no longer need to search for love or approval outside of yourself.
- You gain confidence and security through your love for yourself.
- You spend less time being concerned with other people stuff.
- You become more in touch with your true passions.
- You are able to make decisions that are right for you
- You no longer settle for less.
- You become more resilient.
I could go on and on with this list but I think you are probably getting the message how important it is for you to know your worth and that you are enough.
So, I will leave you with a final thought on why I believe you are enough.
You are enough because there is no one on this planet like YOU…isn’t that amazing? No one has your mind, your voice, your story. You are totally unique and that is your strength and your gift.
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