Resolutions- did you make any this year? Driving on the school run yesterday I heard that statistically, this week is the week that most people find the wheels fall off their New Year resolution wagon.
Every year a third of Britons make a New Year resolutions- but very few of us actually manage to stick to them. According to a 2007 study, 88% of people fail! It gets slightly better in 2015 with only 66% failing but a whopping 80% have been shown to have thrown in the towel by the time March comes along.
Setting then failing resolutions can be disappointing and demoralising, so what’s the answer?
Don’t set them in the first place!- yep you heard me. If statistically, you are setting yourself up for a fail then something different is needed. I purposely haven’t set any resolutions for some years now, instead, I much prefer intention and goal setting.
If you’re currently sat there feeling blue, wishing you could just online order willpower, direction or motivation then why not give this try.
Here are my Top Tips for a positive 2018!
We live in such a busy fast-paced world that it can be easy to overlook the power of reflection. Taking time out to really connect with what you are feeling, thinking and desiring for the year ahead is more likely to result in a clearer sense of direction and purpose.
Getting up on the 1st of January and launching yourself headfirst into a vague notion or plan of what you think you want or should be doing isn’t going to keep you inspired and will leave you wide open to loss of momentum.
Clear some time, grab a notebook and pen, then, give yourself space to really clarify things- so you can move forward into how you’d really like this year to look
Here are some ideas to get you started, write down…
- What worked well for you last year?
- What didn’t work so well?
- How could you have done things differently?
- What is the next small step you could take to move forward?
- When did I feel at my best?
This might feel a little bit Woo Woo for some but connecting visually and with feeling to how you’d like life to be can be really powerful. Creating imagery has been shown to work in many fields- Give it a go, it really does work!
Once you have reflected on how you’d like your life to look, it’s time to start creating the vision for 2018-
Start to imagine your future by picturing in your mind…
- What your every day would look like if everything fell into place.
- What fantastic things would be happening in your life.
- How it would feel to have a life flowing with abundance and well-being.
- The experiences you are having, the sights and sounds.
- What the very best version of you looks and acts like.
- All the things you are now achieving.
- You celebrating you successes.
Tip: Visualise everything in as much detail as you can, revisit it as often as possible- visualise it on the commute to work or every time you take a break. Use journaling or create a vision board to help you to connect with your visualisation.
3. Setting intentions and keyword.
Rather than making a resolution I much prefer to set intentions, including a keyword to help me to stay focused. Making resolutions often tend to be based around giving up something which can create a sense of deprivation- if you’re anything like me, then that only makes you want the thing more!
This year my keyword is ‘Faith’. I try to weave my keyword into my daily life to help me to keep on track and move past my challenges- kind of like creating a mini mantra. For example “I have faith that this challenge is all part of the bigger picture” or “I have the faith that I have the skills to do this task”
4. Goal setting.
Once you’ve visualised how you’d like this year to work out and set your intention it’s now time to look at how to make it all a reality.
Goal setting is so much more positive than making a resolution. I’m a big believer in a little bit of magic so by all means, dream big but when it comes to setting goals try to make sure they are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time-bound- SMART. With your vision in mind work out what you’d like to have achieved by the end of 2018 and then work backwards. Set goals for the 1 year 6 month and the 3 month mark. You might find that you’d like to set monthly goals- whatever works best for you.
Next, you’re going to identify what are the important steps you need to take in order to complete your goals and from this create the tasks you need to do and then take that first step forward into action!
This is also a great time to give some thought to the things you don’t need or can do with letting go of that might be holding you back.
Tip- remember to write down your goals and revisit them often to make sure they’re still relevant and aligned with your vision for the future.
Sometimes when you become so focused on a goal it can be easy to neglect the things that keep you physically and emotionally in balance. This can lead to fatigue and lack of momentum, so do yourself a favour and keep up that self-care. Take the time out for your well-being, do the things that make you smile, keep up with exercise and eat a healthy diet to boost you on all levels.
Above all be kind to yourself, celebrate your triumphs big and small, let go of the things that don’t turn out so great by seeing them part of the journey, experiments or lessons for your personal growth.
So if you’re one of the many who’s New Year resolution has fallen by the wayside this week, don’t beat yourself up just make 2018 the year you did things differently!